Fertility issues can be a strain on your life, your emotions, and how you feel every day. Grief is not just an emotion you feel due to loss, it is one you can feel due to being unable to accomplish the things you want. This includes fertility, and it’s why fertility treatment in Melbourne provides an essential service. Using a fertility clinic is quite common and so is the feeling of grief for any reproductive issues a person experiences.
Unfortunately, grief is an emotion that many people have trouble processing and this results in unhealthy coping mechanisms which in turn, have become common myths on how a person should behave. Understanding why some responses to grief are unhealthy can help you better process what you’re feeling and how to move on to the next important step in your life.
Grief is a common experience and can have many root causes. As a common part of the human experience, grief has a lot of associated myths which are not healthy for long-term recovery. Many of these views are common, however, and it’s important to recognize them and how they can negatively impact your recovery.
- There is a time frame: one of the most pervasive myths about grief is that if it goes on too long, there is something wrong with you. There is no set time frame for a person to move through the grieving process. The time frame can vary greatly however, you shouldn’t think less of yourself if you are still recovering a year later as the common myth says grief should not exceed a year.
- Moving on: when you’ve moved through the grieving process, that does not mean you’ve forgotten what caused your feelings in the first place. Acceptance doesn’t mean forgetting. Even when things have improved, you can still reflect on why you felt the way you did at the time and what you came to understand because of those emotions and feelings.
- Displays of grief: another myth is that grief must be expressed through crying and viable displays of grief. Everyone is different and some people express grief in very different ways. There is no accepted, “by the book” form of grief expression. Thus, if you are not crying and are instead displaying your feelings through different emotions or behaviors, it is not a sign that you are responding incorrectly. There is no exact or correct response to grief.
- You must be stoic: paradoxically in addition to the myth about crying being the only acceptable form of grief expression, there is also the myth of being strong in the face of grief. This is a persistent myth however, expressing grief through crying, being frightened, lonely, or even getting angry is normal. You shouldn’t expect just to bear it and not need help or assistance. It is okay to express your feelings, and it is also okay to ask for help or take time off from work or personal duties.
- Pain should be ignored: holding in your emotions and feelings does not speed up the grieving process. The common myth that being stoic in the face of grief can make it easier to deal with is in practice, not true. Proper emotional healing requires you to face your feelings, and understand your emotional state. This allows you to deal with what you’re going through and move forward to the next stage in your life.
Contact Viera Fertility
If you’re having issues with your reproductive health, there is help available and Viera Fertility in Melbourne. We can help you with the issues you are facing and the emotional impact they have on your life and family. At Viera Fertility, we strive to provide all our patients with the best in care and advice to address their reproductive needs. If you have concerns, contact us today to see how we can help.